For those who live in the United States, we celebrate one of the biggest holidays of the year this month -- a feast (based on a series of feasts in early American history) to celebrate friendship with the native people who fed locals and KEPT THEM FROM DYING when they first settled in the land and DIDN'T know how to survive.
It is now celebrated with too much food and expressions of gratitude.
Which, really, can you get more epic than that?
I live off gratitude these days. It keeps me sane. It's a power that brings positivity, LITERAL changes to the body's chemistry, and a kindlier response from the world around us.
My BIG 5 for today:
1. Getting to share MUSIC VIDEOS. (And so, SO much more.)
I've been living with these songs in my head for ages. Glad to finally be sharing.
2. Laughter.
Part of our recent online campaign has been about sharing the funny moments, because life gets WAY too serious and heavy without them.
3. Memories.
Some days I live on the moments when life was awesome and things just felt good. They're enough to make it through the tough days.
4. People.
Friends who support us, the kindness of a stranger, likes, comments, pick-me-ups from other humans. They keep me going.
5. Writing.
Writing keeps me sane--mine or other people's. Grateful for good stories (the ones I get to pen, included) that give my brain a place to go when life gets heavy.
I'm participating in a month-long gratitude challenge on social media. Join in, eh?
How about you? Can you list 5 things you're grateful for today?
The awesome co-hosts for the November 5 posting of the IWSG are Jennifer Lane, Jenni Enzor, Renee Scattergood, Rebecca Douglass, Lynn Bradshaw, and Melissa Maygrove!
The question for this month:
When you began writing, what did you imagine your life as a writer would be like? Were you right, or has this experience presented you with some surprises along the way?
... Was there ever a time I wasn't writing?
Um, no.
I started telling stories with pictures when I was old enough to hold a pencil (in pictures) and that eventually evolved to cartoon strips, then just words. It wasn't a question of what I imagined my life of writing to be like (because it had ALWAYS been) -- more of, how do I share the stories that ARE my life? I dreamed of publishing my first novel at age 16 and although I'd written my first two novellas by age 13, I took a break in my teenage years to focus on living, picking up the pen again when I was married with a baby. It was always just a question of WHEN and I didn't care about money or noteriety or any of that. How naive I was!
The industry is not all about writing. Mostly, it's about marketing--since publishing houses DON'T do that for authors anymore (unless you've magically found your audience already). If you aren't a marketing genius (or willing to grow into one), writing probably isn't the right field for you. That's been the biggest lesson this journey taught me. Every industry boils down to the almighty dollar, and this one is no exception.
I LOVE writing. I LOVE tellings stories.
I do not LOVE all that goes with publishing.
How about you? What 5 things are you grateful for? What was your writing vision? Will you join me in the gratitude challenge?







You're right, it's all about the marketing. But of course, you must have something worth marketing first!
ReplyDeleteToo true! We just don't think about how the product is merely the tip of the iceberg.
DeleteIf you hate marketing, this path is definitely not for you.
ReplyDeleteThis month I hope to be grateful for a working hand again.
It's true! Unless your only goal is to put it out there for posterity.
DeleteI agree about writing keeping me sane. Although, maybe it's more that stories keep me sane - the ones in my head, the ones I put on paper, the ones I read by other people, the ones I watch, etc. :)
ReplyDeleteYes. It's one way we connect as people, eh? The stories we tell ourselves, the stories others tell...
DeleteMy journey is very similar to yours. I started young, but didn't really get serious about writing till I had my first son. Writing during his naps kept the dream going. :) I'm thankful for so many things: my family, dear friends, the gift of writing, the gorgeous fall leaves, and God's perfect grace.
ReplyDeleteIndeed! *high five* You shall now be my writing twin. LOL!
DeleteI hear what you mean and can relate. I had no idea what I was getting into when I started writing for publication, and marketing was something I'd heard of but had no knowledge about. https://cleemckenziebooks.substack.com/p/the-gift-of-kittens
ReplyDeleteRight?! It was that golden 80's stage where publishers handled everything and people thought writing was so glamorous!
DeleteOh, you can still be a writer if you don't love marketing and don't care to learn. You just can't make money at it. Turns out, that's okay with me (which is definitely something I didn't expect when I dreamed of being a published novelist, back in my teens and earlier).
ReplyDeleteToo true. Who needs money anyway? LOL!
DeleteIt's the marketing part of writing that kills me. lol
ReplyDeleteAgreed. But you can have the best product in the world. If no one hears about it, what's the point? I mean, other than the joy of creation?
DeleteBeing thankful for a whole month? That's a big ask. Can I start with like, a day, instead? Maybe an afternoon? ;-)
ReplyDeleteGod knows I need to look on the bright side and appreciate what I have more, but they keep Thanksgiving to just one meal for a reason...
LOL! I've been working on the "thankful" thing for a long time. Yes, work your way up. I actually keep a gratitude journal where I write 5 things I'm grateful for every night. It used to take a while to think of things, but it's pretty easy now.
DeleteI'm with you. Love lovelove writing.
ReplyDeleteThe best part, right?
DeleteI don't love marketing either. That's why I decided not to get published. And I practice gratitude all the time like you.
ReplyDeleteYou are a great example of practicing gratitude, Natalie! That's one reason I love hanging out with you online. ;) But maybe one day your writing will see the light of day? I hope so.
DeleteGreat post! This year I've done a lot of marketing. I've done a lot of in-person events, and that's actually been fun. Gratitude is so important. Even for the air we breathe. Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteThe in person events thing... So I think that's the hardest part for me. Online? Yeah, I could go all day. Having to exhert the energy in person? I may or may not last. I'm glad your recent evens have been wonderful!
DeleteMarketing is a huge task for sure. I miss the days when I thought it really was all about just writing.
ReplyDeleteIgnorance is bliss, eh? Those good old days...
DeleteDon't we all dream of being able to "just write" and let someone else worry about the business management? I know I do! @samanthabwriter from
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For true! And once upon a time, they did. Ah, but change. That's the way of life, eh?
DeleteA month-long challenge about gratitude sounds awesome.
ReplyDeleteRonel visiting for IWSG day The Truth of the Writer’s Life
For sure! Working on keeping it light, keeping it happy, and finding common ground with others who face hardships.
DeleteYes, especially to laughter! It's so healing and necessary. Thank you for these meaningful reminders.
ReplyDeleteBe well and grateful, always.
Likewise, Robyn! And thank you for sharing laughter wherever you go!
DeleteYour list is a wonderful reminder of all we have to be grateful for. Let's make it a month of Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteYeah! Game on!
DeleteAt least you get some monies from the publishers, here in my country writers get no money, just ten percent of the sales and since we are small and have small circulation, that amounts to nothing LOL And of course they give you no marketing, and we don't have agents either LOL
ReplyDeleteWhew! That's pretty lame. I'm sorry to hear it. We need a writer's revolution, eh?
DeleteEnjoyed your answer.
ReplyDeleteThank you! I'm glad you stopped by!
DeleteI read something, many years ago now, about keeping gratitude present in your life daily. While brushing your teeth, think of three things that you're grateful for. I've been doing that since then. It's a nice little habit. Just in case you want to try it.
ReplyDeleteA great practice! I have my gratitude journal -- where I list 5 things every night that I'm grateful for. It's definitely made me quick at pulling the best bits out of the day. I really like that tooth brushing idea though.
DeleteYup, hanging on to those good memories helps get though those tough days for sure!
ReplyDeleteThat's why we have them, right?
DeleteIt's good to laugh ...
ReplyDeleteSometimes life is not perfect but there is always something to be thankful for ... each and every day.
Have a great November.
All the best Jan
So true -- and if we're thinking about it, many, many things to be thankful for.
DeletePublishers are out to make money so it makes sense that marketing is the main thing about publishing. I suppose this is why so many authors aren't as successful as they should be. I'm grateful for those authors who didn't give up or else we wouldn't have as many great books to read.
ReplyDeleteHave a lovely day.
Agreed! There are an abundance of awesome books so we're not forced to only read what specific people shove into the market.
DeleteOh wow you are so clever Writing at such a young age and your husband is equally clever What an amazing songs I love musicals so will check out more of your videos I enjoyed seeing you in the video
ReplyDeleteThank you, Marja! We are working to get the show on the big stages, but it can only happen with support.
DeleteGratitude is always important, Crystal. You are truly blessed. You find the good in life to help with the difficult days. I try to do the same.
ReplyDeleteI will sing crazy songs. Or put my own words to popular melodies. I'm not a song writer or singer like you. Bravo to you!
I enjoy telling stories to my grandchildren, just as I had to my own children.
I LOVE to look at and read my travel journals with my family.
I'm blessed to have my husband and my beautiful family. All of us healthy. Lucky us!
Thanks for a great post!
Yay! Thank you for sharing. I love your gratitude list. Life is SO rich when we pause and look closely, eh?
DeleteGirl, same--I like the writing, not the marketing. Two different skill sets for sure. I enjoyed reading your gratitudes. I'm grateful for hilarious memes that make me LOL, like the ones of Halloween decorations scaring the crap out of a bear, then the bear beats the crap out of the offending decoration!
ReplyDelete*fistbump* Great minds think alike...and so do we. ;D I watched way too many videos of kangaroos, a cougar, and an opossum getting scared by halloween animatronics. I'm with you! Laughter is medicine for the soul.
DeleteI'm grateful for pretty much everything in my life. :-)
ReplyDeleteHaha! As long as you know what all those things are. ;) I find I have to pause and name them one by one on occasion.
DeleteI'm with you on marketing. Yuck.
ReplyDeleteWriting at an early age seems to be a common theme. I guess it's just who we are.
For sure! Not everyone on this earth is compelled to tell stories, but those that are? Yeah...
DeleteHi Crystal - thankfully I just left myself blogging ... I'm happy that way. Positivity is my go to ... I count my blessings ... family, friends, curiosity, laughter wherever and whenever, common sense ... just luck ... but I'm very grateful and happy to be blogging and around so many friends here: so much to learn about the world ... cheers Hilary
ReplyDeleteI think if all I did for writing was blogging, I'd be a pretty happy cookie. You are a great example of gratitude and loving life. So glad you're part of my world.
DeleteWriting and publishing are two very different games. I wish I'd learned that a little earlier.
ReplyDeleteMe too! I think that's why I talk about it so often -- so newbies aren't as shocked as I was. There's a level of freedom that exists pre-pub.
DeleteWhat a great tell-it-like-it-is post about writing and publishing, Crystal! Right now, given the distressing state of the world, the only way I can keep my head straight is to focus on gratitude. Given the go-round I had with Graves eye disease, I am constantly filled with gratitude for the eye surgeon who restored my eyes. I'm constantly grateful just to be alive because Graves disease could have killed me. Then there is my amazing husband who is the best thing that ever happened to me in my life; my absolute rock. My siblings and family, my friends, my blogging friends, my passion and curiosity, my favorite cottonwood trees ~ I can write a very long list!!! And sometimes I need to overwhelm my worried and stressed mind with all the things I'm grateful for to keep me from spiraling into despair and depression. Gratitude is a powerful, powerful force. Wishing you all the best!
ReplyDelete100%! Thank you for sharing some of the beautiful things in your life. Any time we have a brush with disaster, we tend to see the world more beautifully, eh? Or at least we should.
DeleteThanks for sharing your gratitude!
ReplyDeleteThanks for popping by and showing your awesome face!
DeleteGratitude really is key to happiness. Unhappy people focus on what they lack. Happy people focus on what they have.
ReplyDeleteALL THE WAY. I'll say it as loud and long as I can and there will still be people who miss that truth. *sigh* Grattitude = attitude.
DeleteI’m definitely not a marketing genius, but you’re right. It’s something we writers have to learn.
ReplyDeleteIF they want to succeed. I mean, if all you want is to put your work out there so you have a professionally printed copy and close friends can also... I mean, that works too. And I've come across many people who feel like that's enough.
DeleteHappy writing!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteWonderful post and so true about marketing. On my out-of-reach bucket list: a personal assistant to handle those pesky details:)
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving, Crystal.
Haha! I just want a house cleaner. I'll do everything else. 😂 Happy Thanksgiving to you!
DeleteIt's really ironic how this holiday came about. But I like the idea of making this a month of thanks! Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteBecause everyone needs a reminder to be grateful, right?!
DeleteI like this idea! A month of thanks. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteIt's a good way to live, eh? Happy Thanksgiving!
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